This is an open letter to all the misfits out there who expect people to congratulate them on the upcoming births of their grandchildren………by unwed, 16 year old children. One in particular.
That’s right, I didn’t congratulate you and I won’t congratulate you. I know how old your daughter is, you’re not fooling me. I said exactly what I should have said in response to your situation. A congratulatory response on the pregnancy of your underage daughter is not the appropriate response.
You know, it says a lot about you as a person that you would even expect such a thing from people upon telling them that your underage, very irresponsible teenager is pregnant. It doesn’t speak highly of your own sense of responsibility, or common sense for that matter. What it does speak to is the high level of entitlement you feel, thinking that everyone owes you a positive reaction to a very negative situation.
You shouldn’t be happy, right now. Of course, you don’t know that because in your mind, the only thing that matters is that you might obtain some attention from the fact that your daughter is about to make the biggest mistake of her life. I won’t pat you on the back for that. I will, however, look at you with quite an alarming amount of dismay and contempt for such an attitude.
At a time when your daughter needs you to show her proper direction, you have utterly failed. Instead, all you’ve done is reinforce terrible decision making, poor judgement and bad behavior. Instead of saying, “okay, what’s done is done, now let’s talk about an appropriate decision as to the destiny of this child”, you’ve basically said, “thank you for making shitty decisions, let’s continue that by you keeping this child.” I think you’re reprehensible. I think you’re a complete and utter idiot. I think you’ve doomed your own daughter to being as blind and selfish as you have been. I think there will come a time when she’ll resent you for it because if I were her, I sure as hell would. She didn’t even have a fighting chance at living life before tying herself down with children, and you have done nothing to preserve that. All you care about is that you might get some “precious grandbaby” out of the deal.
What kind of a life can that baby even hope to have? Raised by a mother who can’t even take care of herself yet, or worse, by a grandmother who couldn’t even show proper common sense when it came to her own kids! Where will that baby be in 18 years? Will it also be raising children of it’s own, birthed far before their time? Repeating shitty habits and shitty mistakes because of poor role models?? What do you offer it?
No. I won’t congratulate you. The proper response is the one you got. “Oh, wow, that’s not good. I hope that some common sense decisions will be made to preserve the lives of all involved.” That’s the one I’m sticking with.